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A New Map for Relationships
A New Map for Relationships


“Marty and Dorothie Hellman have written a truly unique book that tells an engaging and persuasive story relating domestic peace to world peace. This book should be read by married couples seeking peace at home, as well as by diplomats seeking peace in the world. This is an especially important work considering the enormously destructive power of nuclear weapons. The struggle for interpersonal dominance can lead to the end of a marriage, but the struggle for geopolitical dominance can lead to the end of civilization.”
William J. Perry, Secretary of Defense 1994-1997

“This is the most impressive book I’ve ever read. I’ve never seen anything as personally touching and thought provoking. I will embrace the journey.”
Axel Merk, President of Merk Investments, manager of the Merk Mutual Funds

“This is the most thoughtful, unique, and fascinating book I have ever read on personal and international diplomacy. Drawing from their own poignant experiences in managing spousal relations – candid stories that will resonate with all readers – Dorothie and Marty Hellman persuasively apply their life lessons to the domain of foreign affairs. We are often puzzled when peoples of two nations seem to get along, while their governments are at loggerheads. The Hellman’s have much to say about why this does not have to be so.”
Lt. Gen. Karl W. Eikenberry (U.S. Army, Retired)
Commander of Coalition forces in Afghanistan (2005-2007)
US Ambassador to Afghanistan (2009-2011)

“I really enjoyed reading  A New Map for Relationships. Your personal story is both charming and very valuable. It has helped me to improve my relationship with my wife, even though she has not yet read the book. I’m looking forward to her doing so, so that we can discuss it together. I really loved the way you integrated resolving interpersonal and international conflicts. Your journey of discovery and transformation is one of hope for couples and for the planet. Thank you so much for sharing it.”
David Krieger, President, Nuclear Age Peace Foundation

A New Map for Relationships is an ambitious and bold study that thoughtfully combines the personal and the political-historical to relate helpful insights to the improvement of both personal and international relations. Its analysis of international conflicts is probing and heavily historically-oriented. It urges honesty, truth, and understanding, and stresses the value of empathy, tolerance, and forbearance with both wisdom and compassion.”
Barton J. Bernstein, Professor of History, Emeritus, Stanford University

“Marty and Dorothie Hellman offer a ‘unified field theory’ for successful relationships at all levels of the human family. The Hellmans use compelling personal and historical examples to illustrate how compassionate, holistic solutions will provide personal security, national security and international security. Every spouse, partner, citizen, and world leader should read this book!”
Daniel U. Smith, Appellate Attorney and Board Member, The Ploughshares Fund

“It is indeed true that each of us carries the fuse of the nuclear threat in her individual heart. It is also true that we generally do not know that simple fact. Some of us go out of our way on a mission to solve the nuclear threat ‘out there,’ without recognizing that the only way to solve it is ‘in here.’ When a person finally discovers the hatred that harbors in his heart, he crosses the threshold that leads to wisdom. This book can greatly accelerate that process.”
Dr. Federico Faggin, designer of the world’s first microprocessor

Critical acclaim for Marty’s 1988 book, Breakthrough: Emerging New Thinking, co-edited with Prof. Anatoly Gromyko. Available through Amazon and other booksellers.

“An impressive and immensely valuable product of Soviets and Americans trying to surmount the mountains which separate our cultures in a search for a common way of thinking about the central threat to us all … the ultimate obscenity of nuclear war. Our differences are real, but this book and the collaboration which produced it, are the only way to thread through them to produce a world in which all our children can live in safety.”
William Colby, former CIA Director

“I have examined your book with interest. This collective work of Soviet and American scientists … represents a valuable experience in the promotion of new thinking. I wish you a fruitful cooperation.”
Mikhail  Gorbachev, then president of the Soviet Union

“This book is a fascinating first of its kind. Since the greatest task of our time is that of avoiding a Soviet-American nuclear war that might end the human species, what can be more important than a collection of essays by both American and Soviet scholars who tackle the problem and, meeting on common ground, enlighten us all and give us hope.”
Isaac Asimov, Author

“Listen to what some wise people in various countries say… in Breakthrough: Emerging New Thinking.”
Dr. Karl Menninger, The Menninger Foundation

Breakthrough is the story of an extraordinary and exciting adventure in cooperation and collaboration by scholars and authors of the United States and the Soviet Union as they examine together the thesis that war simply does not work anymore. …  Your children and grandchildren and great grandchildren will thank you for seriously exploring this idea.”
Mary Louise Smith, former Republican National Chairman

“The publication of this book is in itself a remarkable event. The views expressed in it make it even more remarkable. It gives American readers an opportunity to acquaint themselves with some of the best and freshest thinking in the Soviet Union. It gives Russian readers an array of facts and arguments they have not usually encountered in Soviet works. A surprising milestone!”
Professor Alexander Dallin, Director, Center for Russian and East European Studies, Stanford University